The recourse to surrogate mothers nowadays

Every year, 300 couples go abroad to find the mother of their child, because having recourse to a surrogate mother is still prohibited, when more and more countries allow it.

Why are surrogate mothers accepted abroad?

Most of the time – when a woman cannot bring pregnancy into fruition or when a homosexual couple fervently wants a child – the help of a surrogate mother is one of the few solutions.  In those countries where they do not have to hide, surrogate mothers are subject to a strict investigation and get a good support system. Most of the time, these women already have children, they like being pregnant and want to help other people. The parents only pay for the medical expenses (doctor’s appointments, etc.), surrogate mothers do not get paid.

Couple looking for surrogate mother, risk-free of prison

Law prohibits surrogate motherhood. Indeed, authorities fear that surrogate mothers will get paid, which could create an illegal traffic. We could think that a surrogate mother refusing categorically to be paid would give the baby she carries but the law and courts remains strict about it.

This obstinacy gave rise to an absurd situation in which in order to avoid the creation of an illegal traffic – that could be regulated as it is in other countries – desperate couples are forced to participate in « a procreative traffic » abroad…

Law must evolve at the same pace as the society it governs. In 2007 a poll showed that more than half the population (53%) was in favor of surrogacy.

What are the risks for parents having recourse to a surrogate mother abroad?

Although legislation is evolving, a child born abroad within the framework of surrogate mother convention ratified by a foreign judge will most likely not be recognized as such. Thus, the child will not be registered under his parents’ name on the register of births and no birth certificate will be issued. The child remains a foreigner in his country because the woman or man that will raise and love him during all his life is not considered as his parent.

Make you desire to have a child a reality

WOMAN seeking baby daddy, MEN seeking woman to carry baby, the desire to have a baby can arise out at any moment among singles and/or homosexual couples. Co-parents.net – social networking website to become a parent – is their greatest ally given that co-parenting remains the best solution to conceive a child thanks to a donor or a surrogate mother

Looking for a man to have a child with

There comes a moment in life – often around 30 years old – when the socio-professional situation of a woman becomes stable. If she is lucky, her family will also be around to support her. This is a good environment to raise a chance, she thinks. The desire to have a child has arisen out from all the love she has to give, so why not wait for a hypothetical partner a little longer?

The social networking website – Co-parents.net – will enable her to think about co-parenting, ask people that had recourse to it for their opinion and maybe find a donor with whom she will discuss her project.

Looking for a woman to have a child with

The desire to want a baby also arises among a lot of homosexual couples, people that love one another and want to share this love with a child. Unfortunately, adoption is only possible for straight couples.

From then, there are very few solutions.  Two women can have a child if one of them gets pregnant thanks to a sperm donor. Although, we must bear in mind that her partner will not be able to adopt the child, given that partner’s child adoption is only available for married couples. On the other hand, a co-parenting charter can determine the rights and duties they will have on the child and can be ratified by a judge.

However, two men only have one solution to make their desire to have a child come true: the recourse to a surrogate mother in Belgium, Denmark, in short, wherever the legislation is more advanced.

Co-parents.net, make your desire to have a child a reality

Whether it is to inquire about co-parenting or find a donor or a surrogate, join our 54,000 members now and move forward on your life project.

Same-sex parenting: having a child when in a homosexual relationship – 201301

Same-sex parenting is not recognized and there is no status yet allowing a homosexual couple to establish their filiation to a child. Then, what are the ways to start a homo-parental family nowadays?

Already 300,000 children living with their gay parents!

While waiting for society to accept homo-parental families, there exist only a few legal ways to have a child when one is homosexual. Moreover, adoption is available for straight married couples and single people only. Thus, a homosexual couple will not be able to adopt together a child and have the same rights.

Likewise, Medically Assisted Procreation is reserved to heterosexual couplesmarried, in a civil union or domestic partnership – that are medically unable to have children or are afraid to pass them a severe genetic disease.

Finally, surrogacy is strictly prohibited – paid or not. It is authorized in many countries but yet a homosexual couple having recourse to a foreign surrogate mother will not be able to register their child.